This blog is me trying to put out there information that I wanted when I was first coming to terms with my assault. It is where I write all the bullshit I put myself and others through, and all the bullshit others and the process and society and the world put me through, and try to make sense of it in such a way that, I hope, it could help someone else feel less alone.


I’m Not A Role Model, and I don’t have all the answers. As is evidenced by a lot of what I say on here, sometimes I don’t have any of the answers. I don’t often know what I’m doing or what’s expected of me, but I do know that I want to help. And I do know that, if it means that someone who needs to hear that they’re not all alone can find some solidarity or reassurance, I want to do everything I can to get this information out there.



When it comes to most social media (Facebook, Twitter, etc), I’m unable to share or promote my work because of various reasons, one of which being the ease with which word could get back to My Rapist that I was putting this information out there. Obviously, this makes it pretty difficult for me to get word out about this blog.


So, please. If you find something here that resonates with you – as a victim, an ally, a friend, a loved one, or just a member of society – share it through whatever venue you deem appropriate. If there’s someone who you think could benefit from knowing about this, link them to it. If there’s a point made here that strikes a chord for you, talk about it. Credit me, or don’t credit me. That’s immaterial to me.

I just don’t want anyone to feel as alone and crazy as I felt.